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Apr. 25th, 2010 06:56 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dmxratedWhat's one thing that Chelle got mad at me for just four and a half months ago? Bait tactics. And now, that's the main reason why me and Dad are not on good terms right now since just two nights ago.
Well, said two nights ago, Mom was watching Marie's commercial, and I was passing seven minutes before 8:00, so I decided to bring up something that was bothering me while she had the video paused. Namely, the fact that in some parts of the world, you don't get to choose yourself whether to get married, what job to go for, or whether or not to have kids. Those decisions are made by the parents, and considering how hard it was for me to do a damn thing aside from schoolwork and gaming while I was in college, I would have probably fled my family to seek my own interests if I were to live in any such parts of the world.
Dad then joins in and compares it to Apu from The Simpsons, and then tells me that we don't live in India. I then said that it's also true in China and Japan, and he interrupted me again, saying that we don't live there either. I then told him that I'm trying to make a point, and then just lost it and jumped up off the futon. He then told me to calm down, and then left. I told Mom nevermind, walked out of the computer room, and then reprimanded Dad for having interrupted me. He then told me to watch how I speak to him.
So, even though Dad interrupted me while I was speaking to Mom, Mom told me to see things from their perspective, and consider that maybe I interrupted her with something that had nothing to do with what she was watching.
So then, Dad goes on the computer, and me and Mom go into the dining room to talk about things, such as my tendency to remember previous things like this. Along the way, I tell Mom that I usually remind myself that the reason I continued going to college in the first place, even after I graduated from Suffolk, is because Dad already made the mistake of not having gone to college at all, which is why (or so I thought) he couldn't afford to hire someone to fix our house up instead of having to take care of it himself. When we got to that part of the conversation, this is where the aforementioned bait tactics begins: Dad began to make one wisecrack after another while I was trying to get through to Mom. At first, I thought he was just teasing me, but after a few minutes, Mom went to go speak to him. I overheard Dad say "His point is pissing me off", and then I sat down next to him and asked him what he meant by that. He then gave me this lecture about how going to college isn't good enough, and the difference between me and him is that he knows how to do something useful despite not having attended college, but I don't know how to do much of anything except type even though I have spent five and a half years at college. Furthermore, Dad fixes his own house not because we'd be poor if we hired someone else, but because he has the skills to do it, which I don't.
The next morning, Mom gives me this "Let it go" speech for the fourth time so far. But this time, I don't. I'm already determined to make it very clear that even if Dad does get mad at me, his insults and bait tactics are not gonna fly with me. Before he goes to work, I (reasonably enough) tell him that, and then he rekindles the dispute (which he said I started in the first place) by saying that he feels like such a loser when I talk about his lack of college education. As if it's some excuse to bait me with some wisecracks instead of just confronting me.
He then says that from now on, he'll just stay out of something that I'm only talking to Mom about, and I won't have to deal with him again. Mom then tells me to go into the other room while she speaks to Dad, and I could overhear her saying "Have a great day!" in a rather pissed off manner as he heads out the front door.
So far, me and Dad have had nothing to say to each other since then.
(Off topic, in case you're wondering, the girl in this post's avatar is Makoto Minagawa from Getter Love!! Just replaced Makoto Sawatari from Kanon, which I only used once and have little use for. The one post that used the latter is now marked with my default Mai pic.)
Well, said two nights ago, Mom was watching Marie's commercial, and I was passing seven minutes before 8:00, so I decided to bring up something that was bothering me while she had the video paused. Namely, the fact that in some parts of the world, you don't get to choose yourself whether to get married, what job to go for, or whether or not to have kids. Those decisions are made by the parents, and considering how hard it was for me to do a damn thing aside from schoolwork and gaming while I was in college, I would have probably fled my family to seek my own interests if I were to live in any such parts of the world.
Dad then joins in and compares it to Apu from The Simpsons, and then tells me that we don't live in India. I then said that it's also true in China and Japan, and he interrupted me again, saying that we don't live there either. I then told him that I'm trying to make a point, and then just lost it and jumped up off the futon. He then told me to calm down, and then left. I told Mom nevermind, walked out of the computer room, and then reprimanded Dad for having interrupted me. He then told me to watch how I speak to him.
So, even though Dad interrupted me while I was speaking to Mom, Mom told me to see things from their perspective, and consider that maybe I interrupted her with something that had nothing to do with what she was watching.
So then, Dad goes on the computer, and me and Mom go into the dining room to talk about things, such as my tendency to remember previous things like this. Along the way, I tell Mom that I usually remind myself that the reason I continued going to college in the first place, even after I graduated from Suffolk, is because Dad already made the mistake of not having gone to college at all, which is why (or so I thought) he couldn't afford to hire someone to fix our house up instead of having to take care of it himself. When we got to that part of the conversation, this is where the aforementioned bait tactics begins: Dad began to make one wisecrack after another while I was trying to get through to Mom. At first, I thought he was just teasing me, but after a few minutes, Mom went to go speak to him. I overheard Dad say "His point is pissing me off", and then I sat down next to him and asked him what he meant by that. He then gave me this lecture about how going to college isn't good enough, and the difference between me and him is that he knows how to do something useful despite not having attended college, but I don't know how to do much of anything except type even though I have spent five and a half years at college. Furthermore, Dad fixes his own house not because we'd be poor if we hired someone else, but because he has the skills to do it, which I don't.
The next morning, Mom gives me this "Let it go" speech for the fourth time so far. But this time, I don't. I'm already determined to make it very clear that even if Dad does get mad at me, his insults and bait tactics are not gonna fly with me. Before he goes to work, I (reasonably enough) tell him that, and then he rekindles the dispute (which he said I started in the first place) by saying that he feels like such a loser when I talk about his lack of college education. As if it's some excuse to bait me with some wisecracks instead of just confronting me.
He then says that from now on, he'll just stay out of something that I'm only talking to Mom about, and I won't have to deal with him again. Mom then tells me to go into the other room while she speaks to Dad, and I could overhear her saying "Have a great day!" in a rather pissed off manner as he heads out the front door.
So far, me and Dad have had nothing to say to each other since then.
(Off topic, in case you're wondering, the girl in this post's avatar is Makoto Minagawa from Getter Love!! Just replaced Makoto Sawatari from Kanon, which I only used once and have little use for. The one post that used the latter is now marked with my default Mai pic.)